I am nervous today as the article I did with my local paper has just come out. I am sitting in a café and too afraid to read it here so ill read it when I get home. I feel lucky that I can spread awareness of stillbirth and also start a conversation about it. It is great that I can also promote the ‘Navigating Baby Loss‘ eBook to get it out to families that need it. Stillbirth and infant loss are such a taboo topics in our society. People don’t like talking about babies dying. The problem is though that it is a reality for so many families each year. The more we talk about it the easier it is for these families to heal. To feel like they are not ostracised from society while grieving. Some parents may only want to talk with close friends and family about it which is fine. I just believe more needs to be done to make it acceptable to talk openly about. When I say that “I have a son, but he died” I get so many different reactions. Sometimes a sad look and silence. Sometimes a dismissal and being told “Well I don’t want to upset you so I won’t ask anything”. Sometimes when someone says “I am sorry for your loss, if you want to talk about it I would love to hear about your son” they have made my day. Just acknowledging the loss is so appreciated. I will continue to speak up about stillbirth and also how I am moving through my grief each day.
Thank you Hamish for giving me so much strength