We made it! One year since you were born still. One year since we got to hold you just after you were birthed into the world. We couldn’t wait for that moment. Even though we knew you would never get to take a breath of air, we knew how much we wanted to meet our son. You have continued to shine your light through both of us. I am inspired daily by your love. I am feeling like I have pieced most of the broken pieces of my heart back together. I cry in love for you more than sadness now. I have so much more deeper connections, not only with your Dad but also with my family and friends. I speak to friends and strangers on a much deeper level now too. I don’t hide from sharing our story as I believe when we open up to others that is where the magic happens. Being vulnerable is a strength that I learned from you Hamish. The moment you were born I had two choices. I could retreat inwards and run away from my reality. The other option was to feel my emotions loud and proud. To share my grief and joy with others. To allow those around me to understand better what I was going through. We all have challenges in our lives that we face at different times. We learn so much from the ones that push us to our limits. I didn’t ask for these lessons. To be honest I thought I had ‘learned’ enough in this lifetime. That attitude has completely been turned upside down. You taught me that we never ever stop learning. We can never hide from pain and suffering it is part of the human experience. What we can do though is embrace it with all that we have. Feel it. Be with it in each moment. Once it passes know that you are stronger for going through it. I surrender to what is now. I am present in my days. I am waiting to feel kicks from our precious rainbow baby. I know how lucky we are to be on this journey again. Now it is with you as a special little angel watching over us.
I wake up filled with love after spending yesterday celebrating our special Hamish’s first birthday. It was a beautiful day. It was a little bit cold and grey but that didn’t stop us from having a great time. My lovely friends opened their home so we could have a bit of shelter and hold the party there. We were supposed to be in the park but it all worked out perfectly. My sis in law flew in from Brisbane and I had another couple of soul sisters fly in from interstate. One whom had to fly 2 extra flights as they closed Sydney Airport on Friday night because of storms. I was thinking how lucky is our little bub to know that they have all this love surrounding them. We sung Hamish Happy Birthday at the top of our lungs so he could hear us from above. We blew out the candle on his Whale cake that I had made. We then listened to the most soulful music from my gorgeous friend Lauren Napier and ate way too much party food. It was perfect and just how Hamish wanted it. I took his ashes with us and lit the tea light candle on top.
I love you Hamish and it’s my honour to be your mummy. I hope you liked the party.
I woke up feeling peaceful. It’s Hamish’s Birthday party today and I can’t wait to celebrate with our loved ones. I am excited for his party. A part of me is sad but I know he is watching down on us. We have Jill my sis in law and my friend Lauren and her little son Liji staying with us. It’s nice to have our home full of love. We had a nice breakfast at home and then got the platters ready. I iced the whale cake that I made Hamish. It felt good to be able to throw him a party to celebrate all the love he has brought into our lives. While today may have some sadness, it is still so full of joy. We have our precious little bub on the way. We have our angel son looking down on us. Greg and I are closer than ever and I really thank Hamish for that. I have more meaningful relationships with my friends and family. We are all a little bit closer. I wish it didn’t take Hamish for this to happen, at the same time I am so grateful for him. So grateful for the nine months he was here. So grateful for how the last year has unfolded. There have been dark days and hard times. Overall though he has made our lives richer and more love filled.
I love you
In the end of my yoga class today I had a vivid memory return of the night after Hamish was born. I was wide awake lying in the hospital bed full of adrenaline. I couldn’t sleep not even for a moment. The midwives gave me sleeping pills but they only helped me rest for a matter of minutes. I found out that they put you to sleep but don’t keep you there. So if your mind is still racing one hundred miles and hour then they don’t really work. I felt a soft hand on my face. Then I heard ‘Mummy it’s going to be ok, your going to be ok’. I knew it was Hamish reassuring me. He had left only a few days earlier from his body but his spirit was still so close to us. He wasn’t going to leave just yet. I know he stayed around us for a good eight months while we grieved. It was almost the moment when I felt pregnant again that he decided it was time for him to move on to a higher realm or vibration. I still feel him around me from time to time and I know he is our special guardian angel. He keeps us safe and is always watching over us.
I love you Hamish.
I wrote something today to say at Hamish’s Birthday party. I want him to know how much we love him.
Happy birthday our little angel
Thank you for bringing so much love, joy and happiness into our lives.
Through the pain of losing you we have learned so much.
We have learned what is truly important to us
How to receive more love and give it more freely
How to really feel our emotions
You taught me how to cry properly at the ripe old age of 33
How to just allow things to be as they are
To surrender to what is thrown our way
To be in flow rather than try and control everything
You cracked our hearts wide open
You gave us your presence for nine months
You didn’t just leave us though
We can feel your spirit around us each day
The little signs you send us from above
Reminding us that you will always be there when we need you
You will watch over us as we head towards this new chapter as we get ready to welcome your little sibling
Please know Mummy and Daddy are ok
We love you so much
We will continue to live in your honour always
You will live in our hearts
A part of you will always be with me
I love you Hamish
The tears come today. I sat in meditation this morning and I felt my heart swell with love. I miss Hamish so much. I think I am starting to feel some movement from bub. It’s pretty much a year to the day when I think Hamish would have passed away. We had a check up on the Wednesday then on Saturday we knew he was gone. He left peacefully some time between Thursday and Friday. I am pretty sure I know the exact moment. It is a strange thing to look back on. I wish I could of saved him. There was nothing I could have done though. We were having weekly check ups. I was moving each day, eating well and sending him so much love. He knew how much he was loved. I want this little bub to feel that same love. No matter what happens their time in my womb will always be cherished. Hamish’s little home for nine months is now safely bringing another little soul into the word. It’s nourishing them each day and keeping them warm. I think of my bub often. I sometimes worry if they are ok. I know though deep down that this bub is coming home with us. We will get to have the joy of their earthly presence outside of my womb.
Please keep us all safe Hamish. I know your love is still pouring down from above.
I spent the day getting things ready for Hamish’s party on Saturday. I went and got a speaker and microphone as we have a lovely friend coming to sing. I then went to visit my Pop and Uncle to sort out some extra chairs and tables for the party. It is funny that even though we are so far apart in age we connect on such a deep level. I have really gotten to know my Pop and Uncle better in the past few years. Hamish has brought us even closer this year. My Pop got to hold Hamish and it’s a memory I’ll never forget. Our beautiful social worker Deb put Hamish in his arms and he hugged him and looked down at him with so much love. My Pop has always inspired me. He has grit and determination in everything he does. He worked right through past age 80 in his own business. He showed me that you don’t have to follow the system and you can create abundance in your life on your own terms. I know he was very proud of me for becoming an accountant and doing well in business but you know what is really special. Is that he is even more proud of me now as Hamish’s Mum. As someone who is showing up to the world and finding they purpose. Someone who isn’t afraid to be vulnerable and stumble along that way.
I love you Hamish